Paul Dychkowski

Obituary of Paul A. Dychkowski

Paul A. Dychkowski, 52, loving, good-natured brother, uncle, great-uncle and great friend, passed away Sunday, January 26 at his home in Forked River. Paul graduated from Rutgers University and worked at Naval Air Engineering Station Lakehurst as a software engineer. He was a member of the Phi Kappa Sigma Fraternity and was President of the AFGE Union Local 23. He attended St. Joseph's Catholic Church in Toms River. Born in Elizabeth, Paul lived most of his life in Beachwood, moving to Forked River 3 years ago. Paul was pre-deceased by his parents, John and Mildred, and is survived by four sisters, Ann Warhaftig and husband Joel of Bayport, NY, Susan Grossi and husband Gary of Henderson, NV, Millis Looney and husband William of Rumson, NJ, Janice DeFalco and husband Carmine of Tinton Falls, NJ; brother John Dychkowski of Covington, MI; nieces and nephews, Kate Crider and husband Joseph, Matthew Warhaftig and wife Jing, Dana Grossi, Amanda Grossi, Sara Grossi, Millis M. Looney, Kylie Looney, Steven DeFalco and Christine DeFalco, and great-nieces and -nephews Evelyn, Jack and Sophia. Visitation will be held at Kedz Funeral Home, 1123 Hooper Ave, Toms River on Friday from 5 to 8 pm. Mass of Christian Burial will be celebrated at 9 am Saturday, at St. Joseph's Church, 685 Hooper Ave, Toms River. In lieu of flowers the family requests donations be made in his memory to Jefferson University Hospital for pancreatic cancer research. The Dash I read of a man who stood to speak, At the funeral of a friend, He referred to the dates on the tombstone, From the beginning…to the end. He noted that first came the date of birth, And spoke the following date with tears, But he said what mattered most of all, Was the dash between those years. For that dash represent all the time, That they spent alive on earth And now only those who loved them, Know what that little line is worth. For it matters not, how much we own, The cars, the house the cash. What matters is how we live and love, And how we spend our dash. So think about this long and hard, Are there things you’d like to change? For you never know how much time is left, That can still be rearranged. If we could just slow down enough, To consider what’s true and real, And always try to understand, The way other people feel. And be less quick to anger, And show appreciation more, And love the people in our lives, Like we’ve never loved before. If we treat each other with respect, And more often wear a smile, Remembering that this special dash, Might only last a little while. So when your eulogy is being read, With your life’s actions to rehash, Would you be proud of the things they say, About how you spent your dash?
Friday
31
January

Visitation at Funeral Home

5:00 pm - 8:00 pm
Friday, January 31, 2020
Kedz Funeral Home
1123 Hooper Avenue
Toms River, New Jersey, United States
Saturday
1
February

Mass

9:00 am
Saturday, February 1, 2020
St. Joseph's Catholic Church
685 Hooper Avenue
Toms River, New Jersey, United States
Saturday
1
February

Final Resting Place

10:00 am
Saturday, February 1, 2020
St. Joseph's Cemetery
56-80 Cedar Grove Road
Toms River, New Jersey, United States
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